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<p> Perversion of the marriage institution. Marriage was ordained by God as an intimate and complementing union between a man and a woman in which the two become one physically, in the whole of life, in its purpose to reflect the relationship of the Godhead, and to serve God. With the fall of humankind the divine purpose and function of marriage were damaged by sin, and the marriage relationship often destroyed. </p> <p> <i> Effect of the Fall on Marriage </i> . The fall of humankind (&nbsp;Genesis 3 ) caused human hearts to become hard toward God and toward each other. The relational aspect of God's image, reflected in marriage, became marred. Satan tempted [[Eve]] to rebel against male leadership (&nbsp;Genesis 3:1-6,17; contra. &nbsp;Ephesians 5:33; &nbsp;1 Peter 3:1 ). Men tended to become dominant and harsh in their leadership (cf. &nbsp;Colossians 3:19; &nbsp;1 Peter 3:7 ). [[Sin]] brought polygamy, concubinage, incest, adultery, rape, prostitution, and all kinds of immorality (cf. &nbsp;Leviticus 18,20; &nbsp;Romans 1:26-32 ) that have damaged or destroyed the marriage relationship. Marriage covenants have been violated (cf. &nbsp;Malachi 2:14 ). </p> <p> Termination of the marriage relationship is caused by sin that entered the world <i> after </i> &nbsp; [[Genesis]] 2:21-24 . Death itself, which terminates marriage (&nbsp;Romans 7:1-3 ), came by Adam's sin. Because of sin divorce arose, and Moses sought to regulate it (&nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4; &nbsp;Matthew 19:8 ). [[Divorce]] is not instituted or ordained by God; rather it is generated by sin and is contrary to God's ideal for marriage (cf. &nbsp;Malachi 2:14 ). </p> <p> <i> Divorce in the Old [[Testament]] </i> . Divorce is first mentioned in the [[Mosaic]] covenant (cf. &nbsp;Leviticus 21:14; &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:13-19,28-29 ), but it was already occurring in Israel. Under the Mosaic covenant divorce was regulated in situations in which it might become common. It was not permitted (1) when false accusations were made about a bride's virginity; and (2) when marriage occurred because a man had forcibly violated a woman sexually. A high priest was not to marry a divorcee. &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4 prohibited remarriage of a woman to her first husband after the death or divorce of her second husband. These texts present legal policy whereby quick and frequent divorce is restrained and discouraged. Divorce is not commended, commanded, or approved by God in these passages, but failure to forbid divorce, especially in &nbsp; Deuteronomy 24 , de facto means that God's law tolerated divorce to the extent that no civil or ecclesiastical penalty was imposed. </p> <p> The basis for divorce in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1 is "some indecency" ( <i> ervat dabar </i> ). The precise meaning of this phrase is uncertain. When the rest of the Old Testament and New Testament are examined, it appears that "some indecency" probably had sexual overtones—some lewd or immoral behavior including any sexual perversion, even adultery. The imagery of spiritual adultery, resulting in God's "divorcing" [[Israel]] (&nbsp;Isaiah 50:1; &nbsp;Jeremiah 3:8 ), is based on a real referent. Divorce was socially permissible for adultery. Although adultery was punishable by death (&nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:22-24 ), it could still be included in the broad concept of <i> ervat dabar </i> . It is likewise possible that Jesus employed the general term <i> porneia </i> [ &nbsp; Matthew 5:32; &nbsp;19:9 ) to refer to <i> ervat dabar </i> in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1 . However this phrase is understood, the text implies that this continued "indecency" was so vile that divorce was preferred by the husband. To protect the wife, however, he must provide her a certificate of divorce. </p> <p> This text also recognizes and allows, without condemnation, the remarriage of the wife. In that culture remarriage would be expected since it was difficult for a woman to survive in life unless she was married or remained single in her father's house. This does not necessarily mean that God approves of the remarriage in this text. The text prohibits remarriage to the first husband since the woman has already been defiled. [[Defilement]] is best understood contextually as the "indecency" of verse 1, not "defilement" of adultery because of marrying the second husband. [[Adultery]] would have been punishable by death of the woman and the second husband, if such had been the case. The second marriage is not condemned, nor is a third marriage forbidden. </p> <p> &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4 , therefore, is a concession made by God to the fallen condition of humankind. It does not approve of or encourage divorce or remarriage, although it allows for both, except for remarriage of a woman to her first husband. These Deuteronomic texts, therefore, regulate divorce. </p> <p> In &nbsp;Ezra 9-10 intermarriage with foreigners is viewed as a defilement of the holy race and as unfaithfulness to God (9:2; 10:2,10). [[Shecaniah]] proposed sending away these foreign wives and children (10:3). Ezra concurred (10:11), so the people "divorced" the foreign wives and their children. The problem centers around [[Israelites]] marrying unbelieving foreigners. The "putting away" was to be "according to the law, " but no specific command of this nature can be found in the Law. Although &nbsp; Deuteronomy 7:1-4 commands Israelites not to make covenants or to intermarry with the people in [[Canaan]] when they enter that land, this principle is not normative since the Old Testament permits marriage to believing foreigners (cf. Rahab, Ruth, and Christ's genealogy in &nbsp; Matthew 1:5 ). The principle of not marrying unbelievers pervades the [[Scriptures]] and appears to be the major concern of &nbsp;Ezra 9-10 . It was feared that the holy seed would be defiled. </p> <p> The dissolving of the marriages is problematic. This is de facto divinely approved divorce in order to preserve the holy people. We have already observed that God did not ordain divorce, and &nbsp;Malachi 2:14 clearly states that God hates divorce. We can only conclude that divorce is permitted in some situations. This particular situation related to Israel at that time and appears not to be normative. </p> <p> Malachi rebukes Israel for profaning the Mosaic covenant (&nbsp;Malachi 2:10-16 ). One example is the breaking of the marriage covenant by divorcing ("breaking faith with") the wives "of their youth" (v. 14). God declares that he hates divorce! This is the most direct statement of God's feeling about divorce. </p> <p> Therefore, although the Old Testament presents God's ideal for marriage as monogamous, permanent, and exclusive, the Old Testament likewise recognizes that divorce and remarriage are present because of sin and must be regulated. </p> <p> <i> Divorce in the New Testament </i> . In &nbsp;Matthew 5 Jesus discusses the true intent of the Mosaic Law by emphasizing that righteousness issues from the heart, not from external compliance. Illustrating from the seventh commandment (vv. 27-32), Jesus argues that lust, as well as divorce, are the moral equivalents of adultery. Divorce is wrong because it produces adultery in the remarriage, except in the case of fornication ( <i> porneia </i> [ &nbsp; Matthew 19:9 ) is the meaning of "fornication" ( <i> porneia </i> [ &nbsp; Deuteronomy 24:1 ). Some form of illegitimate extramarital sexual intercourse is conveyed by the term. Therefore adultery in a real sense has already transpired, and Jesus states that this is a permissible ground for divorce. Divorce, however, is not required. Some argue that <i> porneia </i> [ &nbsp; Leviticus 20:10; &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:22-24 ). However, in New Testament times [[Jews]] were unable to impose the death penalty without Roman permission. Therefore, adultery severs the marriage relationship in the New Testament as did the adulterer's death in the Old Testament. </p> <p> Therefore, &nbsp;Matthew 5:31-32 is stating that divorce is equivalent to adultery since the divorced person normally remarries. However, if illegitimate extramarital sexual intercourse is practiced by one spouse, adultery has already transpired, and this breaks the oneness of the marriage relationship. Divorce, therefore, is permissible, although never required. </p> <p> In &nbsp;Matthew 19:1-12 and &nbsp; Mark 10:1-12 some [[Pharisees]] test Jesus by asking whether it is lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason. Jesus reminds them of God's original ideal for marriage in &nbsp; Genesis 2:24 : a male and a female were created to become a permanent "one flesh" union. Humankind should not separate (divorce) what God has joined together. Unsatisfied with his answer, the Pharisees raise the issue of the divorce statement in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4 . Jesus states that &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4 permitted divorce solely because of man's hard (sinful) heart, but this was not God's original plan for marriage (&nbsp; Matthew 19:8 ). In &nbsp;Matthew 19:9 (cf. &nbsp; Mark 10:10-12 ) he reiterates the principle of &nbsp;Matthew 5:31-32 : divorce generates adultery "except" in the case of fornication ( <i> porneia </i> [ &nbsp; Mark 10:11-12 ) who initiates divorce for any reason other than spouse <i> porneia </i> [Πορνεία], and marries another, commits adultery. &nbsp;Luke 16:18 looks at the situation from both directions: the one initiating divorce and the one marrying a divorced person have each committed adultery. For some reason in Mark's argument of the same event as in Matthew (and Luke's separate argument), the exception clause is omitted. The reason for this is uncertain. However, one must accept the exception clause as genuine, valid, and original in Matthew. </p> <p> Jesus' teaching confirms and elaborates the Old Testament concepts of marriage and divorce. God's ideal for marriage is a monogamous, permanent, and exclusive union. Because of humankind's sin divorce arose, and Moses permitted a certificate of divorce to regulate it. Divorce, however, is equivalent to adultery because it generates adultery. So the one initiating divorce and the one marrying a divorced person commit adultery. The only exception to this rule is when one of the marriage partners has committed fornication ( <i> porneia </i> [Πορνεία]), which itself is adultery. When this occurs, the other spouse may legitimately divorce the partner who has committed fornication. Such, however, is not required and should be a last alternative. </p> <p> First Corinthians 7:1-16,39 argues that married people should stay married. First, spouses should not leave/divorce ( <i> chorizo </i> [Ἀποχωρίζω]) their marriage partners (v. 10). This is the ideal (v. 39). If a spouse should leave/divorce a marriage partner, he or she has only two options: (1) remain unmarried or (2) be reconciled. Remarriage is not an option. Second, a believer should not divorce an unbelieving spouse (vv. 12-13). However, if the unbeliever leaves, the believing partner is not bound to the principle about maintaining the marriage. The marriage is thereby dissolved. Paul says nothing about the issue of remarriage. </p> <p> <i> [[Conclusion]] </i> . God-ordained marriage is a monogamous, permanent, and exclusive union. The entrance of sin into the world brought divorce. God hates divorce because it is contrary to his ideal. [[Understanding]] the sinfulness of humankind, he graciously tolerates divorce while establishing regulations to curb it. Jesus upheld the ideal of permanent marriage, making clear that divorce is equivalent to adultery in breaking the oneness of marriage. Initiating divorce and/or marrying a divorced person produces adultery. The only exception to this principle, and, therefore, the only legitimate ground for divorce is illegitimate extramarital sexual intercourse on the part of a spouse. Divorce is permitted for this reason, but not demanded. [[Reconciliation]] should always be sought when fornication or separation has occurred. It is also permissible to dissolve a marriage if an unbelieving spouse departs/deserts the believer. [[Believers]] should, however, always love and accept divorced people and seek to encourage them in reconciliation and godly ways. </p> <p> Ralph H. [[Alexander]] </p> <p> <i> See also </i> [[Family Life And Relations]]; [[Marriage]] </p> <p> <i> Bibliography </i> . D. J. Atkinson, <i> To Have and to [[Hold]] </i> ; H. W. House, ed., <i> Divorce and Remarriage: Four [[Christian]] Views </i> ; W. F. Luck, <i> Divorce and Remarriage: [[Recovering]] the Biblical View </i> ; J. Murray, <i> Divorce </i> ; J. H. Olthhuis, <i> I [[Pledge]] You My Troth </i> . </p>

<p> God’s plan for marriage was that it be a permanent union between one man and one woman – a union broken only by death. Divorce was something God hated (&nbsp;Genesis 2:24; &nbsp;Malachi 2:16; &nbsp;Matthew 19:3-6; &nbsp;Romans 7:2-4). From earliest times, however, people on the whole rejected God, and polygamy and divorce became common practices (&nbsp;Genesis 6:1-8; &nbsp;Romans 1:20-27; see [[Marriage]] ). </p> <p> '''Examples from Bible times''' </p> <p> Among the Israelites of Moses’ time, marriage disorders had become so widespread that Moses set out special laws designed to deal with the problem. In particular he wanted to stop easy divorce and protect women from unjust treatment. </p> <p> For instance, if a man tried to find an excuse for divorcing his wife by accusing her (falsely) of sexual immorality before marriage, he was fined for his cruel accusation and prevented from divorcing her (&nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:13-19). He could divorce her only if there was a valid reason, and only if he gave her divorce documents that protected her rights should she want to marry someone else. He could not take her back if he later changed his mind, and she could not go back to him if her second marriage came to an end (&nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4). </p> <p> Moses’ decision to permit divorce in certain circumstances was not because he approved of divorce. Rather he was trying to reduce divorce and restore some moral order to society. When Jews of later times quoted Moses’ law as approval for divorce, Jesus referred them back to God’s original standard. According to that standard, to divorce and remarry was adultery (&nbsp;Mark 10:2-12; &nbsp;Luke 16:18; &nbsp;1 Corinthians 7:10-11). The only exception that Jesus allowed was the case where a person’s adultery was already destroying the marriage (&nbsp;Matthew 5:31-32; &nbsp;Matthew 19:3-9; see [[Adultery]] ; [[Fornication]] ). </p> <p> A difficult situation arose in New Testament times when one partner in a non-Christian marriage later became a Christian. The Christian was not to divorce the non-Christian partner, but was to do everything possible to make the marriage work harmoniously. If the non-Christian partner was not willing to continue the marriage and departed, the Christian partner had to let it be so and consider the marriage at an end. The statement that in such cases the Christian partner was ‘no longer bound’ seems to mean that he or she was free to remarry (&nbsp;1 Corinthians 7:12-15). </p> <p> '''A universal problem''' </p> <p> In any society where there is a widespread breakdown of marriage, the result will be an increasing number of social and family problems. The [[Creator]] knows what is best for his creatures, and where people reject the plan he has laid down, they will have troubles (cf. &nbsp;Deuteronomy 10:13). </p> <p> There is often no clear-cut solution to the complications that arise because of divorce and remarriage. In some cases, no matter what is done, some ideal will be broken. Moses accepted less than the best because of the people’s ‘hardness of heart’, which suggests that the right course of action may at times mean choosing the lesser of two evils (&nbsp;Matthew 19:8). </p> <p> Repentant sinners can receive God’s merciful forgiveness for divorce and adultery as they can for other sins (&nbsp;2 Samuel 12:13; Psalms 51; &nbsp;Psalms 145:14; &nbsp;Isaiah 43:25). Whatever people might have been guilty of previously, when God forgives them the church must also forgive them (&nbsp;1 Corinthians 6:9-11; cf. &nbsp;Matthew 6:14-15). Although [[Christians]] must, like Jesus, uphold God’s standards when others want to destroy them (&nbsp;Matthew 19:3-9), they must also, like Jesus, give help to those who, having broken God’s law, are later repentant (&nbsp;Luke 7:36-50; &nbsp;John 8:1-11; cf. &nbsp;Hosea 14:4). </p>

<p> '''Divorce.''' A dissolution of the marriage relation. The law on this subject is found in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4, and the cases in which the right of a husband to divorce his wife was lost are stated in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:19; &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:29. The ground of divorce is a point on which the Jewish doctors of the New Testament era differed widely; the school of Shammai seeming to limit it to a moral delinquency in the woman, whilst that of Hillel extended it to trifling causes, ''E.G.,'' if the wife burnt the food she was cooking for her husband. The Pharisees wished perhaps to entangle our [[Saviour]] with these questions in their rival schools, &nbsp;Matthew 19:3; but by his answer to them, as well as by his previous maxim. &nbsp;Matthew 5:31-32, he declares that he regarded all the lesser causes than "fornication" as standing on too weak ground, and set forth adultery as the proper ground of divorce, &nbsp;Matthew 5:32; &nbsp;Matthew 19:9; &nbsp;Mark 10:11-12; &nbsp;Luke 16:18. </p>

<p> '''Divorce.''' Divorce is ''"A Legal [[Dissolution]] Of The Marriage Relation".'' The law regulating this subject is found in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1-4, and the cases in which the right of a husband to divorce his wife was lost are stated. &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:19; &nbsp;Deuteronomy 22:29. </p> <p> The ground of divorce is a point on which the Jewish doctors of the period of the New Testament differed widely; the school of [[Shammai]] seeming to limit it to a moral delinquency in the woman, whilst that the [[Hillel]] extended it to trifling causes, for example, if the wife burnt the food she was cooking for her husband. </p> <p> The Pharisees wished, perhaps, to embroil our Saviour with these rival schools by their question, &nbsp;Matthew 19:3, by his answer to which, as well as by his previous maxim, &nbsp;Matthew 5:31, he declares that he regarded all the lesser causes than "fornication" as standing on too weak ground, and declined the question of how to interpret the words of Moses. </p>

<p> This was explained by the Lord. Moses had suffered a man to put away his wife for any cause, as we see in &nbsp;Deuteronomy 24:1,3; but the Lord maintained God's original ordinance that what God had joined together, man had no right to put asunder, therefore a man must not put away his wife except for fornication, when she herself had broken the bond. &nbsp;Matthew 5:31,32; &nbsp;Matthew 19:3-9 . A [[Bill Of Divorcement]]  must be given to the woman, the drawing up of which, and having it witnessed, was some little check upon a man's hasty temper. </p> <p> Divorce is used symbolically to express God's action in putting away Israel, who had been grossly unfaithful, and giving her a bill of divorcement. &nbsp;Isaiah 50:1; &nbsp;Jeremiah 3:8 . </p>